“You could be happy and I won’t know.
But you weren’t happy the day I watched you go”
There is something about a song when every single word relates to exactly what you are going through. A relationship that just recently ended is the embodiment of this song.
“And all the things that I wished I had not said
Are played in loops ’till it’s madness in my head”
The main reason this relationship ended had everything to do with me. She was beautiful. She was smart. She was amazing. She was clumsy. She was ridiculous. When you love someone everything about them makes you love them. The bright amazing parts of them as well as the dark parts that they might not like.
It was my fault. All she wanted to hear was how cute, beautiful, amazing she look that day. Even if not everyday, at least every now and then. But as always I couldn’t do that. Did I think it? Everyday. Did I say it? No. Why is that? Am I scared? Yes. To open up is a hard thing in my life. Even with people that I love the most.
‘Is it too late to remind you how we were
But not out last days of silence, screaming, blur”
At the beginning we meshed so well. Nothing was wrong. Honeymoon phase is what I think it is called. We were more then happy. I was hers and she was mine. We moved in together early (may have been the start of the downfall). But we were happy.
Now, its silence. Few words spoken to one another. I’m trying to be as civil as I can. I hope she is too. We still sleep in the same bed. Under the same covers. We are not together. I still wake up every night like I used to. Her perfume fills the room. Every single time its a brief moment of elation. Joy. Happiness. Then it is all washed away by what is now.
“Most of what I remember it makes me sure
I should have stopped you from walking out the door”
There were many small things I could have done to avoid this heartbreak. Listening to what she was saying. Giving that complement here and there. Just being that lover that I was supposed to be and not a soul that is dragging another soul down.
“You could be happy, I hope you are
You made me happier then I’d been by far”
She made me feel alive. Feel joy. Feel pain. Feel love. I have had my share of relationships but they were always the same. With her… it was different. I felt a connection. A true love. A light and warmth that I had not felt before. Maybe that is what scared me. Maybe that is was made it hard to say what was needed to be said. It was something I didn’t know how to deal with.
For the first time marriage crept into my mind. Kids did the same. This could be the woman that I wanted to experience this with. This is the woman I would gladly spend the rest of my life with.
“Somehow everything I own smells of you
And for the tiniest moments it’s all not true”
This is an almost impossible thing to avoid. Living with someone, no matter what you do, Their scent, their aroma, their aura stick onto everything you own. Everything you are.
“Do the things that you always wanted to
Without me there to hold you back, don’t think, just do”
I have anxiety. Depression. Hypoglycemic. I need to be on top of what I eat, when I eat. The anxiety can be crippling. I miss the ability to be able to go somewhere or do something without the worry. It was never like this. I cant help but to think if I just didn’t have this anxiety everything would be easier. I used to love to go places and do anything. Do everything. That is who she is. Miss adventurer. That used to be me. I was just holding her back. Bringing her down. Depression is the devil. One thought, one minor feeling and that proverbial grey cloud appears. Pair that with the anxiety and you have a recipe for a ruined day.
“More than anything I want to see you, girl
Take a glorious bite out of the whole world”
No matter what I feel I want her to be happy. She wasn’t. Why would I want to hold her back from the joy of life, of love. To be loved by someone who can truly verbalize how they feel about this beautiful woman. It not fair to her. There is nothing more that I would want then to have her back in my life. To be able to call her mine. It is not to be. I will live and love again. This one will stick with me till the end of time.
“You could be happy”
-Snow Patrol
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